Lack of Confidence Can Hurt Your Business
Dr. Linda Hancock
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Dr. Hancock has written a regular weekly column entitled “All Psyched Up” for newspapers in two Canadian provinces for more than a dozen years. Over the years, her readers and clients have said that they have benefited from her common-sense solutions, wisdom, and sense of humour. Dr. Linda Hancock, the author of “Life is An Adventure…every step of the way” and “Open for Business Success” is a Registered Psychologist who has a private practice in Medicine Hat. She can be reached at 403-529-6877 or through email office@drlindahancock.com
Published
February 28 2011
All Psyched Up. | | Lack of Confidence Can Hurt Your Business | by Dr. Linda Hancock | Published February 28 2011 | Revised June 26 2022
© 2022, Dr. Linda Hancock INC.
People who lack confidence often do not take risks or the do the things that would build and expand their business. Even though they might have products and services that are as good as or better than their competition, they are quiet about them and therefore often do not have the positive response that they would hope for.
Each of us has a 24 hour self-talk loop that reinforces messages over and over again. Even though this is done at a self-conscience level, most people, when they are awake, can tell you the theme of the messages.
One individual may hear statements such as "You are such an idiot. You will never get things right. I just knew this would happen because nothing goes right for you".
Others might hear and say things like "Good job. You did great. I knew you could do this. Everyone will be so proud of you".
I often ask my clients if there is a type of music that they do not like. Some tell me that they do not like heavy metal or country or jazz. When I ask them to explain their choice I am usually told that the person feels irritated or uptight when they listen to that style.
Then I explain to them that playing the type of music that they do not like and having negative self-talk usually result in the same way. The physical and emotional feelings are often uncomfortable for the person.
What is the solution? Change the music. Put in a new CD. Make sure that the messages you are playing over and over to yourself are the ones that will soothe and relax you instead of ones that leave you feeling uptight.
How can you do this? Well, here is the good news. Your mind can only hold onto one thought at a time. Yes, there may be others that are competing with it, but basically that one thought has dominance. So, with affirmations and practice, you can learn how to make sure that that one thought is one about what you want in your life - not what you don't want.
Practice saying positive things to yourself so that they will displace the thoughts that you do not want to be playing. When you say "I can do this. One step at a time." your mind will begin to strengthen and, over time, you will begin to realize the thinks that you are talking about, And always remember, success breeds success so when you achieve something it will help you in the next situation.
Confidence can be build but if you lack confidence it will likely hurt your business. Time to do something about it now and watch the benefits that you and the business reap as a result.
All Psyched Up. | | Lack of Confidence Can Hurt Your Business | by Dr. Linda Hancock | Published February 28 2011 | Revised June 26 2022
© 2022, Dr. Linda Hancock INC.