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Friends
Years ago, I looked up the word “friend” in a dictionary. I can’t remember the exact name of the dictionary, but I do remember the description. It said, “A friend...
Friends
Years ago, I looked up the word “friend” in a dictionary. I can’t remember the exact name of the dictionary, but I do remember the description. It said, “A friend...

Are You Happy or Needy?
Over the summer I have been taking some professional development courses on defectiveness and relationships. I always try to choose topics that will give me more insight and strategies to...
Are You Happy or Needy?
Over the summer I have been taking some professional development courses on defectiveness and relationships. I always try to choose topics that will give me more insight and strategies to...

Building Relationships
Sometimes it is difficult to make connections with other people. Here are some tips to help in the process: It’s not all about you! When you are only thinking about...
Building Relationships
Sometimes it is difficult to make connections with other people. Here are some tips to help in the process: It’s not all about you! When you are only thinking about...

Healthy Boundaries
Many years ago, Kenny Rogers made famous a song called “The Gambler”. Its wise lyrics offer good advice for all of us when it comes to relationships. “You got to...
Healthy Boundaries
Many years ago, Kenny Rogers made famous a song called “The Gambler”. Its wise lyrics offer good advice for all of us when it comes to relationships. “You got to...

Love Is Not
Valentine's week is focused on multiple ways of showing others that one cares for or is in love with them. Hearts, flowers, candy and trinkets are given as symbols of...
Love Is Not
Valentine's week is focused on multiple ways of showing others that one cares for or is in love with them. Hearts, flowers, candy and trinkets are given as symbols of...
Wishing and Hoping
Have you ever had someone tell you that they weren't interested in having a relationship with you? That can be a devastating thing to hear. Everyone wants to be loved...
Wishing and Hoping
Have you ever had someone tell you that they weren't interested in having a relationship with you? That can be a devastating thing to hear. Everyone wants to be loved...

Who's Your Valentine?
As we approach February 14th it is time to think about relationships and their meaning. Ponder the following:1. Most people spend more time shopping for a new vehicle than finding...
Who's Your Valentine?
As we approach February 14th it is time to think about relationships and their meaning. Ponder the following:1. Most people spend more time shopping for a new vehicle than finding...
Time for Paws
Have you ever noticed that some people treat their animals better than they treat other people? They beam when Spot enters the room and spend time greeting and cuddling him....
Time for Paws
Have you ever noticed that some people treat their animals better than they treat other people? They beam when Spot enters the room and spend time greeting and cuddling him....

Resolve or Regret
So many people have regrets. They feel sad, guilty or disappointed about the way things turned out and blame themselves for doing or not doing something that would have resulted...
Resolve or Regret
So many people have regrets. They feel sad, guilty or disappointed about the way things turned out and blame themselves for doing or not doing something that would have resulted...

Trust - Difficult to Get and Keep
Often I hear clients state "I just don't trust him (her)". My response is "To do what?" 1. Assumptions - You might have thoughts that a thing is certain to...
Trust - Difficult to Get and Keep
Often I hear clients state "I just don't trust him (her)". My response is "To do what?" 1. Assumptions - You might have thoughts that a thing is certain to...

What Do You Have to Give to Others?
Funny how things change over time. Years ago, homes often had three or more generations living together. My grandparents were a powerful influence on my life. Today we live in...
What Do You Have to Give to Others?
Funny how things change over time. Years ago, homes often had three or more generations living together. My grandparents were a powerful influence on my life. Today we live in...

Is Your Partner a Sex Addict?
It has always been difficult to define the word "addiction" because people's perceptions vary. Some individuals minimize or have a fixed idea that they aren't addicted because they are still...
Is Your Partner a Sex Addict?
It has always been difficult to define the word "addiction" because people's perceptions vary. Some individuals minimize or have a fixed idea that they aren't addicted because they are still...

Learning About Child Sexual Abuse
A few days ago TLC had a special documentary entitled "Breaking the Silence" in which five individuals told the stories of how they had been sexually abuse as children. The...
Learning About Child Sexual Abuse
A few days ago TLC had a special documentary entitled "Breaking the Silence" in which five individuals told the stories of how they had been sexually abuse as children. The...

Is This Healthy?
It doesn't matter whether it is marriage, friendship or causal relationship there are certain things that are important to observe in order to ensure that what you are involved in...
Is This Healthy?
It doesn't matter whether it is marriage, friendship or causal relationship there are certain things that are important to observe in order to ensure that what you are involved in...
Friends Are Waiting
My paternal grandfather, Robert Hancock, was an orphan who was sent to Canada by the Dr. Barnardo organization when he had just turned eleven years of age. He was a...
Friends Are Waiting
My paternal grandfather, Robert Hancock, was an orphan who was sent to Canada by the Dr. Barnardo organization when he had just turned eleven years of age. He was a...

The Benefits of Having a Funeral
On July 11 my sister died. Six days before this we all attended the wedding of her only son and now we were faced with yet another long trip to...
The Benefits of Having a Funeral
On July 11 my sister died. Six days before this we all attended the wedding of her only son and now we were faced with yet another long trip to...

Fight Fairly!
Your brain has two sides, each with specific tasks to perform. The right-hand side has a very small region called the amygdala which does many things including producing emotional reactions....
Fight Fairly!
Your brain has two sides, each with specific tasks to perform. The right-hand side has a very small region called the amygdala which does many things including producing emotional reactions....

The Pre-Nuptial Agreement
We are in the wedding season when starry-eyed brides and grooms are eager to exchange their vows. Weeks or even months of planning and thousands of dollars have been invested...
The Pre-Nuptial Agreement
We are in the wedding season when starry-eyed brides and grooms are eager to exchange their vows. Weeks or even months of planning and thousands of dollars have been invested...
Processing Speed
When my children were pre-teens, there was talk about the idea that someday we might all have personal computers and that computers would enter the workplace to save us time...
Processing Speed
When my children were pre-teens, there was talk about the idea that someday we might all have personal computers and that computers would enter the workplace to save us time...

Is There a Godfather In Your Life?
In 1972 Francis Ford Coppolla produced and directed the first of three award-winning movies about a fictional New York crime family. Recently, one of the television stations had a "Godfather...
Is There a Godfather In Your Life?
In 1972 Francis Ford Coppolla produced and directed the first of three award-winning movies about a fictional New York crime family. Recently, one of the television stations had a "Godfather...